Has the Model Minority Myth kept you buried in work and in unfulfilling relationships?

Learn the skills to navigate your mixed culture, masculinity, and emotions without feeling less of a man.

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Welcome to the Emotion Dojo

A gym membership for the heart and soul of the high-performing Asian male diaspora.

Why Do We Need This?

Studies have shown that success comes from motivation and emotional intelligence. 

You can be the smartest, most qualified person in the room, but if you don’t know how to handle pressure and develop meaningful relationships, it will be difficult to succeed.

*From High Point University Survey Research Center.

Who Is This Community For?

The stigma and cost of emotional wellness services create a barrier to entry for Asian Americans, especially for men.

You’ve realized that life satisfaction is not only based on career success but on the depth of your relationships and emotional wellbeing as well.

The Dojo is a place to exercise these soft skills without judgment so we can be better men and leaders for our coworkers and loved ones.

How Does It Work?

Self-study through a video course and join the weekly group calls with a brotherhood of growth-minded men working on living a fulfilling life.

Plug into a community of emotionally intelligent Asian dudes to stay connected.

This is NOT therapy. It’s better.

Get notified when the program launches!

Think of the Emotion Dojo as the gym to exercise your mind, heart, and soul.

The virtual Dojo is open!

The world has enough high-performing men. It's time for more empathetic men willing to connect deeper with those around them and within themselves.

What do you get in the Dojo?

The Boxing Ring
Boxing Ring by Max Burnside from the Noun Project

A dedicated place to strengthen brotherhood with other growth-minded Asian dudes.

The Weapons

Get the tools and frameworks to assist you when you feel threatened, without being destructive.

The Gear
glove by P Thanga Vignesh from the Noun Project

Arm yourself with healthy coping mechanisms to handle high-pressure situations and conflicts.

The Training
Wushu by Gan Khoon Lay from the Noun Project

Follow proven steps to increasing your emotional intelligence.

Other Men's Experience So Far

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The Emotion Dojo (Founders)

For the Badass Asian Dudes who are ready to take action now
$90
$ 50 Per month (Limited EARLY BIRD spots available!)
  • Join as a Founder and receive all future features and content updates for free
  • Get more time with coach and members while it's small
  • (1) 30-min 1:1 coaching sessions per month ($50 value)
  • (4) Group coaching calls every month ($200 value)
  • Access to Private Discord Channel to connect with other men
  • Tickets to recurring workshops (avg workshop ~ $35 value)
  • Future access to 10-week video course ($200 value)
  • Weekly group coaching on video course topics ($300 value)
Limited spots

The Emotion Dojo (Public Access)

For those who want to try it before committing
$ 200 Per month after free trial ends
  • First two weeks free
  • Get access to everything after it's been polished
  • (4) 30-min 1:1 coaching sessions per month ($300 value)
  • (4) Group coaching calls every month ($200 value)
  • Access to Private Discord Channel to connect with other men
  • Tickets to recurring workshops (avg workshop ~ $35 value)
  • Access to finished 10-Week video course ($200 value)
  • Weekly group coaching on video course topics ($300 value)

The Emotion Dojo

For the value-driven Asian dude who knows a good deal when he sees one
$900
$ 500 Yearly price (save 2 months)
  • Join as a Founder and receive all future features and content updates for free
  • (12) 30-min 1:1 coaching sessions throughout the year ($1800 value)
  • Group coaching calls every week for the year, except holidays ($2400 value)
  • Access to Private Discord Channel to connect with other men
  • Tickets to recurring workshops​ (avg workshop ~ $35 value)
  • Unlimited access to 10-Week video course ($200 value)
  • Weekly group coaching on video course topics ($3600 value)
2 free mths

A Letter to Badass Asian Dudes

Learn more about what it means to be a Fulfilled, Badass Asian Dude and why I’ve created The Emotion Dojo.

FAQ's

No. None of us are trained mental health professionals and no therapy is administered.

Some therapeutic frameworks will be used in a life coaching context, but this is mostly a group of compassionate individuals willing to support each other level up our lives and personality.

Do you identify as an Asian man who’s been seeking a community of other badass Asian men?

Are you at a place in your life where everything feels routine, where you’re starting to feel apathy in your career or relationships?

Does everything on the outside look great to others (nice house, new car, great partner, comfy savings account) but still find yourself lacking something internally in your life?

Do you want to add more “badass-ness” into your life? More freedom, more excitement, more accomplishment, more fire?

If any of those were a ‘yes,’ then you owe it to yourself to join. And on behalf of the other men, we want those who want to prioritize the growth of their inner worlds.

Many support groups focus on business and don’t allow for a more emotional space that builds people up from the core. Rather than addressing the surface level symptoms (i.e. dating struggles, career burnout, family issues, etc.), we support you in slowing down to actually feel the emotions behind that. And we can build stability in that discomfort, you can develop more relevant next steps for your life.

Asian men who live in a place other than their family’s country of origin have unique challenges.

We struggle with the pressures of being perceived as the “model minority,” leaving us not wanting to cause trouble or take risks.

We have emasculating stereotypes that kill our self-esteem in the workplace and in dating.

We’re stuck between identities, neither belonging as an Asian, nor an American (or Canadian, European, Australian, etc.).

And most importantly, we were cultured to not show any feelings that might seem weak. Which meant we’re left alone not knowing who to turn to, or how to articulate what we’re struggling with.

So though I fully believe all humans could benefit from learning more about their own emotions, being an Asian American man myself, it’s important to me to make this accessible to more Asian guys and to build community around these common obstacles. From that mutual understanding, we can skip all the explaining and jump right into the heart of the issues.

I know we’re all busy dudes who are hustlin’!

Which is why this is a go-at-your-own-pace program. Meaning you decide how much time you want to put in.

Logistically, I’ll have a weekly 2-hour group call that you can either join live, or catch the replays. From the calls, there’ll most likely be some type of homework or stretch goal to work on throughout the week so you can come more prepared for the next session.

Once I have the video course built out, there will be an expectation to spend another hour per week on them so you can bring specific topics into the calls.

In total, I’d say the minimum time commitment would be 4 hours a week, assuming this is integrating into your current wellness practices.

If you can’t create the time for this, I’d actually use that as a point of reflection for yourself and whether where you’re spending your time is aligned with your values or not. You’re drawn here, reading this for a reason, time should not be the issue.

But if you still can’t find that time, this membership will certainly be a waste of money for you.

I am ICF-accredited and certified in coaching models like Cognitive Behavioral Coaching, Appreciative Inquiry, and Motivational Interviewing. Not having gone to a fancy school, I learn from experience and observation. And by surrounding myself with the experts who are smarter than me so I can learn specific tools as it applies for Asian males.

As the first-generation born in America and oldest son of Chinese immigrant parents, I had to learn how to communicate across language and cultural barriers. I had to learn how to deal with a lot of the ignorance immigrant parents would unknowingly fall trap to. I watched my parents and grandparents bicker every day over the smallest miscommunications, which taught me conflict management skills. I had to learn how to handle my own emotional wellbeing when they would tell me things like, “man up,” or “stop being so sensitive.” Or when they never verbally expressed love and instead added more pressure on me to perform.

In my corporate career, I had to learn how to manage stress and burnout when I found myself in toxic work environments, constantly changing deadlines and no attention to culture. Aiming to fill the gap, I joined an employee resource group within the company to help employees find work-life balance. I facilitated workshops that improved workplace satisfaction amongst new hires and new managers with more open, empathetic conversations.

I’m also a life student. I love listening to podcasts, reading personal development books, and working through online courses and worksheets (yup, I’m a nerd!). But all those resources meant nothing if I couldn’t apply it. So I quit my job to pursue entrepreneurship. They say owning a business is one of the best personal development courses to take. 

And I’m proud of the relationships I’ve built up to this point (as well as what I’ve learned from the failed ones). With that, I now have the experience to speak to why emotional intelligence is the most important thing we can learn as human beings.

I’m doing the work, and will continue doing the work to better myself. Joining the program means you’ll be growing with me.

We have some awesome dudes in the dojo already!

One is a CEO of 3 companies, with 6 successful exits of tech startups. But even after each one, he realized it still wasn’t making him happy. And he joined looking to improve his EQ for his company.

Another is an Engineering Manager, but started feeling burnout because his true passion lies in writing. He needed emotional support to work through his fears and limiting beliefs to give him permission to pursue a creative passion.

There’s another software developer who joined after realizing that he was unable to recognize and reconcile with his emotions when there was a conflict in his relationship.

Another dude is happily married, but still fighting loneliness because of the lack of male relationships.

One has been so focused on his business, but hasn’t dated anyone seriously for the past couple years and lacking intimacy.

This other guy is a powerful facilitator and leader, but struggling to command his monetary worth.

And many others!

We’re here to challenge each other, to point out our blindspots, and to learn how to love other men as their true selves.

Being the oldest son of immigrant parents who went into technology, my left-brain is #FIRE lol. So I get that you might also want a clear, tangible, logical return on your investment.

If there is any part of you that resonates with this though, you’ll know in your intuition that these social-emotional skills are missing in yourself. Because it’s been missing in most men, if not all of society. You might have even seen it lacking in those around you.

Having that said, exercising these soft skills will inevitably get you what you want, the money, the freedom, the intimacy, the badass career, and connections. Building emotional skills helps you build better relationships, which will give you better opportunities, and in turn, fill your life with whatever abundance you want.

But I will say, if money, hot women, or fame is what you’re looking for, this community won’t be for you. There are plenty of other experts who can help with that. I’m building this community of men who seek something deeper within themselves and want the accountability of others to accelerate that progress.

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