THE JOURNEY TO A MORE EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT WORLD DOESN’T HAVE TO BE A LONESOME ONE.
Emotional Intelligence is as much a muscle that has to be trained as anything else in our body. It’s something we have to practice in order to get better at. And like working out our physical bodies, it’s possible to improve our emotional intelligence all by ourselves, but it takes longer than having someone to guide you.
You’re capped on how far you could go without someone to spot you. You could study all you can about the mind and body, but applying it is the hard part. It’s like trying to bench or squat too much weight, where you could actually harm yourself if doing too much alone and with improper form. It’s helluva lot easier to have someone watching you from the outside work on yourself so they act as your sounding board. They could objectively identify where your limitations, blocks, and areas for improvement are.
Just as any personal trainer, athletic coach, or mentor, I’m here to support and keep you accountable towards becoming who you want to be. And I do that by educating you about EQ and guiding you towards your own answers on what your emotions mean to you, all while having fun with it!
The reason why I focus on coaching EQ is because our emotions are at the root of everything that we think and do. Everything you want to achieve and become starts with understanding your body’s antenna and what it’s telling you. Some emotions are hard to trust, but some are actually signs for growth, so it’s important to sort through all of that.
Not enough of us prioritize it because we’ve never been taught of the importance of it. It’s understandable, as a society, we didn’t know enough about how our emotions work before. But that’s all changing as more studies are being done to understand how our mind and body works. It’s a common conception now that our thoughts and emotions influence our actions and behavior, which influence our human experience and outcomes, which in turn influence how we think and feel. So if you don’t like what you’re experiencing at your current stage in life, you have to look at your habits, as well as your mindset and perspective.
Personally, I’ve grown up suppressing my emotions. I’ve been told by almost everyone around me what I should or should not feel. As a man, and Asian American, I was never given the education to understand how to navigate my thoughts and emotions. And because of that, I never took risks. I rarely expressed myself. I held my voice back and let myself be pushed aside. That left me stagnant at my job, doing things I didn’t even care enough about to try to get promoted. I stayed at the same level and at lower pay while those who joined the company years after kept surpassing me.
Now I’ve taken it upon myself to become comfortable with my own vulnerability and insecurities by reaching out and expressing myself more. I’ve joined men’s groups, hired coaches, and taken online courses that have honestly taught me so much about myself and where I want to go, which is something I’m going to be working on constantly. I will never be able to claim myself as a master of emotions, I don’t think anyone can. But I believe the world will be a better place if we can become even just a bit more intelligent with them.
I want to take all that I’ve learned and pass it on to you, if you want it. And I want to do it while continually learning from you as well! There’s still so much I don’t know and have trouble with myself. As cheesy as it is, I am forever a student of life and our emotions.
What I mean is that I want to coach those who truly understand and resonate with my message. I hope you know a little bit more about me before wanting to work with me on a more personal level.
And if it’s not me you want to work with, I really do hope you research whoever it is you hire as your coach. Because an important part of any relationship is a mutual understanding and common ground. Don’t just hire anyone because they had a convincing sales pitch, or because they showed off all of their toys, or have the most followers. Really think deeply about why you need a coach, and why them specifically.
But I’m assuming, since you’re here, you’ve already done all that! Maybe you don’t even need to read the rest of this page either. If that’s the case, I don’t want to beat the dead horse. Let’s jump on a call!
My philosophy on coaching is about reaching internal success rather than external outcomes. I’m not going to claim that by working with me you’ll be able to date a super rich model who cares about your feelings, or that you’ll be able to release your emotional energy out into the world and manifest a big a** mansion, or that your business will 10x after being able to better connect emotionally with your audience. Those are all external outcomes, attributes of success that are dependent on something you don’t necessarily have control of. If those things are what you’re looking for, I’m not the right person for you.
Instead, I want to help you connect better with your inner world. We can develop a better sense of your own foundation, your own baseline, your “true north.” I care about increasing everyone’s self-awareness by being there as an objective sounding board for your ideas and feelings.
I don’t need much for myself. I’m a simple man. So I want to develop a better humanity by helping others work towards their dreams. The world needs more of those who have come alive with excitement and passion for who they are.
Before you get into this whole experience with me, let’s “define the relationship.” I know, it’s the dreaded “DTR” talk that “we’re not supposed to do” in our relationships, right? But this is not going to be just any typical relationship! I can’t and won’t be the one to coddle and cuddle you. I’m not going to be your best friend. I’m not your therapist. I’m not here to suffice for your quota of a “real connection” or intimate relationship. I’m here to provide you with the tools to find those relationships on your own.
I’m here to guide you to understand your own emotions and what they mean to you. I’m not here to tell you what you’re supposed to feel, no one can.
I’m here to teach you strategies for managing the emotions that you feel within your body, and to express that with those you care about. I’m not here to preach on what relationships are “supposed to be” or how to “game” and manipulate people.
I’m here to help you uncover clarity on what you truly want for yourself and what your values are. I’m here to support you on what that growth looks like to you. I’m not here to give you value or worth, or the magic path towards success, fulfillment, and prosperity.
I’m here to push you through discomfort and it’s going to be weird, not gonna lie.
So now that I hope you’re clear on what working with me means, it’s up to you to decide where to go from here.
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