Create clarity in your path.

Most humans have been cultured to be “top-heavy.”

When we think too much, we don’t feel enough, making it difficult to navigate our uncertain future.

Welcome to the Emotion Gym!

The online coaching and accountability program to exercise the emotional intelligence (EI) skills needed to access your intuition for better decision-making, stress management, and emotional clarity.

Who dis? Learn more about me here: https://victorung.com/start-here/

set long-term goals

Create clarity in what your definition of success means to you personally, not anyone else.

learn stress management

Practice the skills to become emotionally resilient in high-pressure situations so your emotions don't block you from being productive.

Access intuition

Tap into the other source of information for better decision-making that most of us haven't practiced.

Build assertiveness

Become magnetic in both your career and relationships by getting solid on your core values and what you want.

Inside the 10-week program

discover where you're at

I operate under the assumption that we’re not here to “fix” your life. Instead, we can identify certain areas of improvement that could bring holistic balance back.

what is emotional intelligence (aka ei)?

EI dates all the way back to 1964 and was then popularized by Daniel Goleman in his book in 1995. However, many still don’t know what it means, why it’s important, and how to exercise it.

The first steps to improving your ei

We’ll get right into actionable steps to developing EI in a way that works for you. There’s no universal process, as our emotions are subjective to the individual, but there is a framework that can guide us.

how to Take ownership of your emotions and build resiliency

This is about how to go from being emotionally brittle to emotionally resilient. It’s NOT about forcibly controlling your emotions, but being aware and accepting of them so you can reframe your behaviors to be more productive.

How to Manage Stress and Anxiety

In an increasingly fast-paced world, it’s difficult to deal with information overload, competing priorities, changing deadlines, and an uncertain future. This week will be about how you can create inner peace within yourself by being intentional with what you can control, while comfortable with what you cannot.

Learn To Make Effective, Intuitive Decisions

There’s nothing wrong with being a logical thinker, but what’s left behind is the ability to be empathetic thinkers. When we focus so much on the rational part of the brain, we tend to over-analyze and over-complicate and either be too quick or too slow to make long-term decisions. This is about accessing your intuition as another source of data for more clarity.

Create Your Purpose and Responsibility

One result of developing these social-emotional skills is a connection to something more meaningful, specific to your life. Much of the frustration and unfulfillment we feel comes from not having aligned our skills, values, needs, and wants and we can create a better sense of purpose when we can better understand how we feel about ourselves and of the world.

How to Exercise your Creative outlets

Everyone needs a way to express our inner thoughts and emotions. Otherwise, they get trapped in our minds and exaggerated to the point where it becomes unproductive. This week is about redefining what creativity means for you and to find your own outlet.

deepen your relationships

Success comes from the ability to develop relationships with those who can inspire, motivate, support, and trust you in reaching your goals. It’s commonly said that you’re the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with, so this is where we’ll take a look at those relationships and how they can help you realize your goals.

Design your roadmap

Life coaching is unlike therapy in the sense that coaches want to build you up and set you free, rather than spending multiple sessions processing your past. But before you explore on your own again, you’ll need a roadmap. This is not set in stone, but will function more like a compass to guide you along the way.

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No, it’s not. Though therapy and coaching does have many overlapping practices and important in their own aspects, therapy focuses more on processing the past and diagnosing dysfunctional habits, whereas life coaching assumes that there’s nothing to fix, per se, and that there are areas of improvement that could accelerate your growth towards an ideal version of your life.

A mentor is someone you’ve developed a natural relationship with and is most likely directly related to your field of interest. They can help you navigate the details of what you’re doing with direct advice. Whereas a life coach doesn’t provide advice, rather, an outside, unbiased perspective that you or a mentor might not be able to see being “stuck in the weeds.” A life coach will ask you the deeper questions that will draw out your own answers.

A really good friend is a genuine connection that you’ve built. It’s someone who is willing to put in the emotional labor to be there for you when you need. They have the most context on you over the years. However, they may not have the time or tools to help you on a dedicated basis. Maybe they have their own biases, or maybe your history together gets in the way of being fully honest, out of protection for the friendship. Plus, a good friendship is a two-way street and they might expect some effort back from your end to maintain the connection. A life coach is again, that third-party that will focus solely on you. And they can draw from their experience working with many others to help you accelerate your growth.

Life coaching is just one side of the die. There are many other ways towards self-discovery. Besides the mentor or friends and family, there’s:

    • Travel
    • Wellness Retreats
    • Journaling
    • Books, podcasts, videos
    • Community groups
    • Float tanks, spas
    • Yoga, meditation
    • Conscious use of plant-medicine
    • many more I’m probably missing..

No, you can’t. You can’t force yourself to be happy when you’re sad, or peaceful when angry, or energized when tired. But you can manage how you respond to those emotions as you feel them.

What I love teaching are the 3 A’s: awareness, acceptance, action (or not). Emotional intelligence is about increasing awareness of how you’re feeling, accepting that it’s part of your nature, and then deciding what you’re doing to do, or not do with that emotion.

Of course, I’m still very early in my process, and if you’re asking this question looking for more credibility, I won’t be able to give you that right now. But I am dedicated to continually working on my own emotional growth and helping people achieve their non-materialistic goals, knowing fully that I have so much to learn within myself as well.

I come from a technology background and started my career in web development and agile product management. But throughout my education and profession, I’ve always been aware of social-emotional behaviors in people.

In the year before I left my job, I volunteered with a grassroots initiative within the company to help employees with work-life balance. We provided lunch & learns and workshops on taking a look at our lives holistically with the head, heart, body, and soul and to improve leadership skills. We got so much positive feedback on how impactful that education when they took it back to their client’s projects.

I then got certified as an ICF-accredited Catalyst in a 5-month intensive with JRNI and learned coaching techniques like Motivational Interviewing, Appreciative Inquiry, Asking Open Questions, and more. I’ve worked with about a dozen clients now and their feedback has been so heart-warming to hear how they now have a clearer picture of where they want to lead their lives.

I’ve done therapy, hired my own coaches, joined men’s groups, and read/listen/watch online content everyday to continue learning. I’m practicing my own EQ by opening up myself both online and offline with strangers and friends and family. And will continue being curious as a lifelong learner.

You totally can! But you do have to live with more intention if you truly wanted to learn these skills. Otherwise, I’m sure you can think of someone’s 80-year grandparents who are still very out-of-tune with their emotions and living only for themselves. Age and experience doesn’t completely translate to higher emotional intelligence. 

And when interacting with people, you could be the most “popular,” or have thousands of followers, or extroverted enough to make connections, but your internal compass can still be off. You might miss subtle cues, you might be avoiding to address something you’ve deemed too deep or dark, you might get feelings of shallowness with your work, relationships, or hobbies. Having an entourage doesn’t necessarily equate to having empathy, good stress management skills, effective, intuitive decision-making, or strong leadership skills.

But if you have the awareness of these things to practice humility and admit to your weaknesses, you can definitely learn these skills on your own!

That’s awesome to hear! This service isn’t required for everyone. If you’re surrounded by people who support your growth, allow you to be your authentic self, and see yourself being highly productive and accountable towards your long-term goals, you probably won’t get as much out of this as others.

It depends on what you value. People will spend $1000 on a new iPhone, or hundreds on a spa retreat, or high-quality green smoothies. There’s no judgment! I get it. It feels good to see the immediate benefit of buying something tangible, whereas you don’t necessarily get that same guarantee with an information product or service.

Having that said, because I’m a new coach, this isn’t as expensive as what other coaches are charging for their programs. Many will charge up $200+ per hour and what I offer is more support outside of just the one-hour calls.

I totally get the fear of buying something online that isn’t backed by a credible conglomerate like Amazon, so for that, I do offer a 14-day money back guarantee in case you realize this isn’t a good fit between us. No questions asked. I want to make sure we’re both happy working together!

To be honest, being a rookie coach, I’m still refining my messaging as I continue gaining experience working with people like you. This is all new and uncomfortable for me, coming from a corporate tech career where I could just do what everyone else tells me to do and pretend like I was working ha!

I get that you want something tangible or a specific, measurable result as a return on your investment. This type of service, however, is something that won’t necessarily be quantifiable, at least immediately.

Having that said, improving your emotional intelligence will improve your interpersonal skills, which will help build relationships with people who will give you better opportunities, and in turn, increase your earnings.

But I will say, if money is the sole thing you’re looking for, I’m not your guy. There are business coaches and career coaches for that. I want to help you build a life around the specific set of emotions that you want, not to collect more material things.

You have options

Everyone has different needs and ways to address it, so I offer 3 ways to work with me (I hate those deceiving price tags, I offer flat rates).

The Community

Get a sense of my coaching and the community. You are not alone.

$200

3 virtual calls customized to you

Access to Facebook community

Access to weekly group "hotseat" coaching

Email support

Video/voice/text messaging

Recordings and email summary of every call

Before-and-after EI evaluation

Lifetime access to future video course

The Solution

Get the information that you need to implement with independence.

$1100

Personal 1:1 call on each week's lesson

Access to Facebook community

Access to weekly group "hotseat" coaching

Email support

Video/voice/text messaging

Recordings and email summary of every call

Before-and-after EI evaluation

Lifetime access to future video course

The transformation

Get feedback, accountability, and lifetime access to the video experience.

$1500

Personal 1:1 call on each week's lesson

Access to Facebook community

Access to weekly group "hotseat" coaching

Email support

Video/voice/text messaging

Recordings and email summary of every call

Before-and-after EI evaluation

Lifetime access to future video course

*Disclaimer: Individual results may vary, depending on the many factors in your life and openness to experiment. This is not professional therapy or psychiatry. I am not a licensed professional. Please seek medical help if you are experiencing serious conditions.